Marriage Secret

Every now and then someone will ask me how Olaf and I have such a happy marriage. Come on, it's been over 17 years, aren't you sick of each other yet?

And you know, some days I am sick of it all. But I love the guy. He is wonderful. But he has faults. But so do I. And I have to remind my friends-in-not-such-happy-marriages that it's not all peaches and cream. Sometimes it's curdled milk. And sometimes it's hot lava, but that's mainly from me, not him.

But I decided the other day one of the reasons we make it work is the attitude we have. We both knew marriage wasn't going to be easy. We both knew it would be a lot of work. We both knew it would require 100% from each of us.

But the most important thing I think is; We both are just Thankful that Someone would actually Like us enough to Marry us and Put Up with us on our worst days and all the other days in between. The first few years of our marriage I just kept expecting him to call it quits since I was such a pain, but he never did. I know I'm not real easy to live with and every day I thank my lucky stars that Olaf is willing to put up with me.

I think everyone has their own secret ingredient in their marriage. Sometimes it just takes time to find out what it is. Hopefully you can figure out what makes your marriage special and remember that when the going gets tough.


denverallens said...

Donna being sappy, I LOVE IT! You guys are really cute. Even if he does make biscuits in the kitchen aid!

Midwestern Gone Idahoan said...

YEA!!! I think we also had GREAT examples!! They didn't pretend that it was easy either!!

Urban Parks said...

You do have a pretty good husband. He does know how to be invisible and to give you space. But, if you think 15 years is great, just wait, it only gets better. At 42 years and 7+ months I'm still pinching myself about how lucky I was. As a friend of mine says, "We married up" (Me and Olaf that is). Enjoy every day and savor every moment.

sally said...

I know how you feel Donna. Jay and I are both thankful that we found someone to love us for who we are and that we don't have to be someone else. We were just talking about it last night. I asked him how he put up with his crazy anxiety ridden wife and he looked at me and said you bare my kids, I couldn't ask for more. At lets be honest, the whole bearing kids thing for me isn't as easy as my sisters made it look like.